Self-Assessment
Anxious Attachment on Dating Apps
5 min read·Self-Assessment
Dating apps are essentially a slot machine wired directly into the attachment system. This checklist helps you notice when you are playing it healthily — and when it is playing you.
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Most people find this takes about 3 minutes — and it changes how they see the dynamic.
Match anxiety, breadcrumbing, ghost-aftermath — the dating-app patterns the anxious system gets caught in..
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If any of this lands close to home, you're not imagining it. The patterns here are common, workable, and rarely something to face alone — that's exactly the work I do with clients every week.
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