Self-Assessment
What's My Attachment Style?
4 min read·Self-Assessment
This short reflection draws on attachment research to give you a felt sense of your patterns. There are no bad results — only better self-understanding.
Find your pattern
1. I find it relatively easy to get close to others.
2. I worry about being abandoned by people I love.
3. I prefer not to depend on others or have them depend on me.
4. I often want to merge completely with my partner.
5. I am comfortable having others depend on me.
6. I find it difficult to trust partners completely.
7. I rarely worry about my partner leaving me.
8. I get nervous when anyone gets too close emotionally.
9. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away.
10. I am comfortable depending on partners.
11. I sometimes feel partners don't want to be as close as I would like.
12. I prefer to keep some emotional distance, just in case.
Most people find this takes about 3 minutes — and it changes how they see the dynamic.
A 12-question self-assessment that maps how you tend to relate in close relationships — gentle, no jargon..
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If any of this lands close to home, you're not imagining it. The patterns here are common, workable, and rarely something to face alone — that's exactly the work I do with clients every week.
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