Healing & Growth
Why I Push People Away
6 min read·Healing & Growth
Pushing people away is rarely about them. It is the system trying to keep you safe from a closeness that once cost too much. These prompts help you meet that part of yourself with more compassion.
Take a moment to reflect
Most people find this takes about 3 minutes — and it changes how they see the dynamic.
A gentle reflection on the protective reflex of distance — and what is underneath it..
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If any of this lands close to home, you're not imagining it. The patterns here are common, workable, and rarely something to face alone — that's exactly the work I do with clients every week.
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